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BoLex Say I Do: Our Love Story

RWP_165Our story began 3 years ago when we sat beside each other at a Toastmasters meeting. I didn’t think anything of it and nothing much happened on that first meeting. Then after several months, we met again at another Toastmasters meeting. We hung out for coffee the following day to discuss about the companies we were running. At that time, Jong was the CEO of a start-up company while I was the CEO of Truly Wealthy Realty. I mentioned to him that building a business is hard work and you often are tempted to work all the time. But being part of a discipleship group at CCF helps me keep things in perspective. This got him curious and he asked if he could accompany me to church the next day (which was Sunday). This was the start of his Christian journey. He joined the same discipleship group that I was in and we started hanging out more -most of the time with our fellow dgroup members.


A few months later, he asked our Dgroup leader if he could pursue me. But our Dgroup leader said no, not yet. And so he waited for 1 year, before he gained our dgroup leaders approval and my moms permission to officially court me. That decision to wait meant more to me than anything he could have said because it meant that he truly loved the Lord. And so 1 year later, when he asked me out on our first official date, with a bouquet of roses in his hand, he told that his intention for this courtship was marriage. Although he was only asking for my permission to court me, it felt like a marriage proposal. I told him that I would pray about it. And I did. And it has lead us to this momentRWP_376RWP_558Through this journey, I learned 3 things:
First, know your worth. For single ladies out there, don’t settle. Choose a man who knows your worth and who will state his intentions from the start. Don’t settle for guys who pursue half-heartedly with unclear intentions. Don’t allow men to disrespect you or take you for granted. Look for a man who will really pursue you. For me, I wanted to be courted the old fashioned way – and although I didn’t tell my husband that, that’s exactly how he pursued me. He asked my dgroup leader, my mom and then he asked me if he could court me.


Second, choose to become the right person. We now live in a time that idealizes love and romance. We keep on searching for the right mate. but the question is, are we working on ourselves to be Mr or Ms Right? Love isn’t only about our partners fulfilling our needs. It’s about working together to add value to each other. And to be able to add value, we need to be intentional in working on our personal growth. RWP_394

Third, love is a choice. We choose to love even when the going gets tough. Because let’s face it,our partners are imperfect and so are we. When you throw two imperfect people together, there is sure to be conflict. It won’t always be hearts and flowers, but when both of you decide to stick with each other for better or for worse, to adjust and make compromises, that’s when your love will grow. Now that’s a love worth keeping.


A wedding is one of the milestones of ones life. Because it marks the beginning of a different life. Once married, 2 become 1. As our pastor said, it’s only in marriage that you experience the highest of the highs and the lowest of the lows. It can be as beautiful or as stormy as you want it to be.


I’m positive that with Christ at the center of our marriage, we will not be shaken. We’d like to thank everyone who came and celebrated with us on our special day – our family and friends, our sponsor, our suppliers and to the Lord. This wouldn’t have been possible with all your love and support.


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4 Tips to a Stress-free Wedding

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I can’t believe I’m getting married in 3 days! It seems like only yesterday when Jong proposed. A lot of people have been asking me if I’m already stressed out, but honestly, I’m not. What I’m feeling is more of excitement of what’s to come.

Everything is ready. All our suppliers have been booked and the details are in place. Even our house is ready. We just need to move in. Planning this wedding has been fun for us and also a great learning experience. I know that many brides-to-be feel that planning a wedding is a daunting task. And yes, it can be. But you can enjoy the process with your fiance and even become closer together because of it. I’ve learned a lot about myself and my fiance throughout this planning process and I’d like to share 4 tips with you on how you can enjoy a stress free wedding.

Tip no 1: Team work makes the wedding plans work. I find that some brides end up planning their entire wedding on their own and the groom just shows up the day to attend. Girls, you and your fiance are a team. Do it together. It will more fun and much more fulfilling to do it together rather than to go at it on your own. Think of your wedding prep as a test drive for how well you can work with each other once you’re married. When we started planning our wedding, Jong assured me that we would do this together. That he would be with me every step of the way. And so we did. From the venue, to food, right down to booking lights and sounds, we did it as a team.

Tip no 2: Starting preparing early and follow a process for planning the wedding. I don’t like cramming. I always prefer to be prepared. That’s why we started planning our wedding literally hours after Jong proposed. We were still in Cebu at that time and yet we were busy canvassing suppliers already. The trend now is the guy proposes this year, and the wedding is set on the following year. Trust me, 1 year is more than enough time to plan a wedding. The reason why many people fall into this trap of cramming is that they feel that their wedding is still so far away that they can afford to delay preparing for it. Weddings typically involve a lot of details. There are so many suppliers to book. And if you cram everything in one month, you’ll really feel overwhelmed. So we went at it like we were developing a business plan. What we did first was to create a strategy, a process to follow. Second, we set our budget. Third, we listed down all the suppliers we needed to book according to priority. Since we also had work, we couldn’t pour all our time in planning our wedding. So we would allot a few hours each week to discuss about it, meet and then book the suppliers we wanted. Each month, we would book 2 or 3 suppliers. So after 9 months, we finished booking all the major suppliers. Now, all we had to finalize were the details.

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Tip no 3: Choose your suppliers wisely – and trust them to deliver. We booked all our suppliers ourselves. We did our research. We asked people and other suppliers. Then we called and met up with the suppliers we wanted. We chose CDO-based suppliers to avoid additional out-of-town fees and so meet ups would be easier. If you’re based abroad, meeting up with suppliers may be challange. You’ll need someone that you can trust to do this for you. I’m very particular with the suppliers because I wanted the proven and tested ones. Since we were also on a budget, we personally met up/called each supplier so we could stick with our budget. Getting married today is expensive but it doesn’t have to be as expensive as you think. I’ll be posting about How to Get your Dream Wedding on a Budget after the wedding. So once you’ve booked your suppliers, let them do their job. Don’t micromanage. One reason why I’ve been so stress-free is because I booked HM Events to plan our wedding. I’m very hands on with the whole process but I’m not a detail-oriented person. So having Azel (the senior planner assigned to me), to manage all the details for me is awesome. She has a checklist for everything and she reminds of the stuff that I need to do. Yesterday, we met up for our rehearsal and final review of everything and we’re basically done.

Tip no 4: Pray. I cannot over emphasize the power of prayer. Brides, this is our greatest weapon in planning our dream wedding. Prayer can not only move mountains, it can move the hearts of suppliers too. When we started planning for our wedding, we prayed about everything. We prayed for the suppliers we wanted, for the details to be in place and that we would stick to our budget. And by God’s grace, he has really come through (he always has). He sent suppliers and people to help us. Some of the suppliers really gave us huge discounts. It’s just amazing how the Lord can move mountain for you. Just trust Him.

And there you have it! My 4 tips to a stress-free wedding. If you have any questions, feel free to call or email me. I’d be glad to help out. Especially since so many people have helped us out with our wedding – this is just me returning the favor. Blessed to bless.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Real Estate Broker Alex Zeta

Honesty is Still Always the Best Policy

One thing that I value most in my relationships – whether it’s in business, family or my love life – is honesty. When you know you can trust someone, even when the going gets tough, you’re able to continue on. I believe that trust is the foundation of a great relationship. That is why when my partners and I started Truly Wealthy Realty 6 years ago, we decided that the core value of our realty would be Integrity.

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Integrity is one of the most important qualities you can ever develop.It is the key to living a happy and fulfilling life. Your commitment to being totally honest with yourself and others will bring you freedom and happiness. To live a life of integrity, you must determine your core values and live according to those values – no excuses.

Integrity is a personal choice to hold yourself accountable to ethical and moral standards. It can be measured by one thing – consistency. It’s easy enough to be honest one time. But it takes discipline and commitment to behave with integrity in a consistent manner. Integrity is not about taking the easier road. It’s about doing the right thing simply because it’s the right thing to do. It’s about keeping your promises. It’s about telling the truth even if it means you won’t make that sale.

There are no moral shortcuts in the game of business or life. There are, basically, three kinds of people, the unsuccessful, the temporarily successful, and those who become and remain successful. The difference is character.
-Jon Huntsman, Sr. , Billionaire

Integrity is the backbone of any successful business. It’s simple. People will not do business with someone they can’t trust. Jon Huntsman said it best. Everyday you have a choice. Would you rather be temporarily successful or would you prefer to remain eternally successful?

Last week Ms Jenny contacted me looking for a house to rent in Uptown, Cagayan de Oro City. Since she’s based in the US, it was her sister that I accompanied to view my listings. Out of the houses I offered her, she liked one house in Morning Mist Village. It was a newly renovated corner lot property, right beside the park. Their only condition was that there had to be fiber connection available in the subdivision because her husband needed fast internet to work. After asking some of our clients who lived in Morning Mist Village, we found that fiber connection still was not available in Morning Mist Village.

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Today, Ms Jenny informed me that her sister already found another house for her. Even though I wasn’t her broker for that deal, I was still happy for her, and so I congratulated her. To my surprise, she sent me this reply.

Thank you! I really appreciate imong positive behavior! You will go far sa imong field tungod ana. God will bless you even more! 😊Actually na-appreciate jud nako imong honesty bahin sa MMV nga house. Coz kung lahi pa nga realtor, you could have easily said nga yeah pwd mataoran fiber optic pero dili diay & then we will be stuck bitaw kay pag-abot namo diha wala naman mi mahimo kay nakabayad naman. Ana bitaw. God blesses people jud nga honest! So I just want you to know nga high kaayo akong regard sa imong pagkatawo because of that.


I was really touched by her messaged and was also a little surprised that she noticed. Most people don’t seem to mind things like this. They just expect you to be honest and that’s it. Even though I didn’t close this deal, I’m still happy because my client was able to appreciate her experience with me as a real estate broker. I’m in this industry because I love assisting people with their real estate needs. My primary intention is to help people; to serve them to the best of my ability. My clients needs come first.

Honesty and integrity are by far the most important assets of an entrepreneur.
-Zig Ziglar

Behaving with integrity is a commitment. It’s not easy but every time you make that choice, your self-respect will increase with every honest decision you make. As your respect for yourself grows, this will positively impact all the other areas in your life.

The supreme quality for leadership is unquestionable integrity. Without it no real success is possible, whether it is on a section gang, football field, in an army, or in the office.
-Dwight Eisenhower

I’m far from perfect. It is only by God’s grace that I am able to do what’s right. It’s his strength and not mine. It’s my desire to live my life in such as way so that when people look at my life, they will see Christ in it. This includes behaving with integrity.

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
-1 Corinthians 10:31

What about you? Is there an area in your life where you struggle in being true to yourself? Perhaps it’s time to look beyond your fears and insecurities and be true to yourself. It’s only when you’re able to be honest with yourself that you can be honest with others. And only then can you behave with integrity.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

Alex Zeta
Real Estate Broker
Phone: 0917 851 2752


Rocheflume’s Real Estate Journey with Truly Wealthy Realty:Mentor & Friend turned Client

I believe that the first people you should focus on helping are those who are already within your network. I met Rocheflume Flores five years ago when I first joined Toastmasters. Through time we bonded over food and numerous cups of coffee in various coffee shops. I came to see Tita Roch, not only as a friend but as a mentor. As one of the top performers in Manulife she has achieved a lot of things that I still aspire for. She taught me a lot about marketing, sales and especially creating great relationships with people. She taught me not to focus on the sales but on the relationships. We are, after all, in the people business.

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RFC, CWM, REP Manulife’s Senior Financial Advisor-Elite MDRT-Court of the Table (COT 2017) GAMA International Management Awardee, Image and Financial Coach

I also made my first investment in life insurance with Manulife through her help. I’ve never really believed in life insurance before. I’ve been investing in the stock market for many years now and I thought that was enough. But numerous conversations with Tita Roch about the benefits of investing in life insurance soon changed my mind. That, and reading Randell Tiongson’s book – Life and Personal Finance which Tita Roch gave me as a gift.

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During our conversations Tita Roch mentioned to me that she wanted to invest in her first house. I assessed her needs and, based on what she wanted, showed her several houses. But since she was always traveling, she couldn’t make a decision immediately. It was after a few years when she finally decided to invest in a ready for occupancy house in Xavier Estate Phase 5, Ventura Residences. The journey we travelled wasn’t as smooth as I wanted it to be. We hit some bumps along the way but thankfully everything turned out well. In fact, I just turned over her unit to her last week. It’s now scheduled to be remodeled by her Architect Russell Legaspi. I can’t wait to see the finished product!
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Thank you for assisting us from planning to turn over. We had challenges along the way, but you really extended the SUPERDUPER extra mile to make our ist project “Happy and Successful”😊😊😊
Thank you for being patient and understanding, Lex.😘
So blessed to have you as a friend,a sister, a dear client and our Realtor..😘😘😘
Praying for more.projects to come.😇😇😇

-Rocheflume Flores
RFC, CWM, REP Manulife’s Senior Financial Advisor-Elite MDRT-Court of the Table (COT 2017) GAMA International Management Awardee, Image and Financial Coach

What I’ve learned in my five years as a real estate broker, is that it’s really about the relationship that you have with your clients that matters. You may hit some snags along the way, but when you continue to be there for your client and serve them the best way you can, you’ll be able to strengthen your relationship even more.

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It’s not about what you get but what you give. It’s about the value that you impart to other people.

What about you?

As a salesperson, do you feel like you’re not making enough sales? Do you feel like you’re doing everything you can and yet your prospects don’t seem to be responding? Or perhaps you find it hard to even set meetings with potential clients?

Focus on adding value and the money will follow. If you want to make a career in real estate selling, then email or call us and we’ll help you get to where you want to be.

Alex Zeta
Real Estate Broker
Phone: 0917 851 2752

Who is a person you know buying their first home – could be a renter or a son/daughter of a friend. Please email me with their name and situation. I promise they’ll get the excellent service they deserve.

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Need advice on how to manage your finances? You may contact Rocheflume Flores at 0917 549 7888. She really knows what she’s doing and goes out of her way to serve clients. I should know since I’ve invested in 3 policies with her.

Love & Dating Series Session 1: Love & the Right Person Myth

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It was a full house tonight as we launched Session 1 of the Love & Dating Series: The Right Person Myth. Our speaker for the first Session was Mr. Mel Santos – an educator and entrepreneur who actively serves Christ’s Commission Fellowship CDO alongside with his lovely wife.

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Single men and women tend to have 2 main priorities – career and love life. Just ask single people you know and they’ll answer with either one or the other – if not both. According to Eden Ahbez, the greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return. To be in love is such a glorious and wonderful feeling. And this is why so many singles flit like butterflies from one person to the next in their search for the “right person.” But as our speaker so eloquently said, there is no such thing as the “right person”. Because it takes two people – not one – the make a relationship work.

So if there is no right person – what then should we do? Should we despair of finding our happily ever after? Should we stop searching before we even begin?

The answer lies within us. Instead of continuously searching for the right person – Be The Right Person. Be the person you yourself would like to marry.

Think about it. Would you marry, you?

How then can we be the right person? In order to achieve a goal, we should have a model. Someone to look up to and follow. In order to be the right person, we should let the right person in. That person is Jesus Christ.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
– John 3:16

love and dating series + ccfThere maybe tons of saints and heroes in the world – but there is no better model of love than Jesus Christ. He lived and died for you and me so our sins could be forgiven. The greatest thing you can give to others is your life. Nothing can top that.

Choosing to say yes to God was the best decision I ever made. Letting Christ in my life has made my life better in every way. He has completed the emptiness within me. He makes me want to be better, more kind, more patient, generous and loving. The more I focus on him, the more I grow to become the “right person”. Not perfect – but a little better each day. And as long as I’m better than I was the day before, that’s enough for me. A little progress everyday is better than no progress at all.

So how should we love?

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres

-1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Haven’t you ever wondered what comes after “and they lived happily ever after”?

To love someone unconditionally is no mean feat. Because that person, like you, is imperfect and flawed. So singles, don’t be in such a rush to get married. Enjoy this season in your lives. Focus on becoming the right person – the person you would like to marry. So that when you meet  “the one” , you’re ready.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.


For those who attended Session 1, I hope you enjoyed the talk. We’d like to invite you to Session 2: The Person I Like. Session 1 debunked the right person myth. Session 2 will be focusing on how to become the right person.

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Love & Dating Series

LSD Poster mainHow would you like to become Mr Right or Ms Right? Or for those in a relationship, improve the relationship you are currently in? Or maybe you simply want to prepare yourself for marriage – to be the right person for your future spouse.

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this series is for you. B1G – the singles community of CCF – is organizing a Love, Sex and Dating Series. It’s a 4-part series that will run for 4 weeks. We all have our own opinion on these 3 areas that form a large part of the lives of singles.We like the idea of falling in love and we hope that it lasts. So some of us go on date after date hoping to find “the one”. But have we thought about Love, Sex and Dating according to God’s point of view? When you go along with God’s plan, you’ll experience less heartbreak.

The purpose of this series is to share to Singles about Love, Sex and Dating according to God’s perspective.

Love, Sex and Dating Topics:

SESSION 1: Love and the Right Person
Relational success that is foolproof against today’s instant gratification culture
Speaker: Mr. Mel Santos

SESSION 2: The Person I Like
Treating the opposite sex in a manner that they’d like to stay on with you
Speaker: Mr. Pope Valmores

SESSION 3: Designer Sex
Fantastic satisfaction guaranteed, if you can follow through on some simple guidelines
Speaker: Mr. Mike Tuyan

SESSION 4: Preparation Trumps Commitment
Becoming the person others are looking for as a lifetime partner
Speaker: Mr. Mel Santos

Ticket Outlets:
CCF CDO (Beside Redtail Ketkai)
Silver Glam Limketkai
7/11 Corrales
Mindys Restaurant Yacapin

For reservations contact: 0917 851 2752

Most singles dream of meeting Mr./Ms Right, falling in love and living happily ever after. But falling in love is easy. Staying in love – that takes work. Why not prepare for marriage even while your single. School prepares us to be good employees. But what preparation are you doing so you can be great spouse in the future? Even if you feel like marriage may not be for you, this Series will help you improve in the way you deal with the opposite sex. Give it a try. You wont regret it.

Go live a Truly Wealthy Life.


I’m Engaged!

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Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve always been into fairy tales and happily ever afters. My grandmother, who was a teacher, would read me fairy tales before bedtime. And so I grew up believing that one day, my Prince would come. Now, he finally has. I’m engaged!

engagedLast February 10 my boyfriend proposed to me. I’ve always been wanted romance and flair, and that night I got it. After my brothers wedding in Chateau de Busay, my boyfriend, in front of my family and close friends, got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. The setting was perfect. Aside from the romantic venue with the great view, what made it so memorable to me was the presence of my family – some of who are based abroad and other parts of the Philippines. My business partners, Stef and Mitch, also flew all the way from CDO to be part of the proposal. They’re the best partners ever. What made it even more surprising was that I totally had no idea Jong was going to propose that night. I’m usually very intuitive when it comes to these things, but I guess I got so distracted by the wedding I didn’t see it coming.

Ours was a love story that didn’t happen in an instant. In fact, Jong had to wait for almost a year before he could formally court me. But I guess the best things in life can’t be rushed. Now, I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this amazing guy that taught me how to be to love selflessly. We are total opposites and yet we have the same mindset in many things. We both love to learn and we challenge each other to grow in the different key areas of life. He is not only a man I can love, but  he’s also someone I can follow.

To all the girls out there who are still waiting for their Prince Charming, don’t give up. Someday, he’ll come and you’ll have your fairy tale moment when he gets down on one knee and asks for your hand in marriage. In the meantime, work on being Ms. Right. Put your relationship with God first because when He is first, everything falls into place.  

Here’s a video of our proposal :)

SNL Unplugged Christmas Special

unpluggedSNL Unplugged – Christmas Special held last night was a full house at Chingkee Tea main as 7 different bands spent the night serenading the crowd with Christmas songs and songs of worship. The show started at 6:30pm with an opening number by UPraise followed by a short message by Mercedes owner and General Manager – Daniel Mejia.Then the rest of the night was spent listening to the rest of the bands while sipping a cold cup of Chingkee Tea.

snl-christmas-special-unplugged-2The message was mainly about finding meaning in what you do. Because you may not always understand what happens to you, but when you know who you’re living for – you’ll be ok. As for me, I’ve decided to live for Christ. He is the reason why I find meaning in life.

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Unplugged happens every 3rd Saturday of the month at CCF (beside Redtail Ketkai). It’s open to everyone who’s into music and making new friends. It’s a great way to spend your Saturday night. Hope to see you at our next event!

We would like to invite you to our Trivia Night next Saturday, December 17, 6pm at Elevate Hub, CCF (beside Redtail Ketkai). For more info, check out SNL’s official FB page HERE.


What Happens When Love Fails You?

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Being in love is a glorious feeling.

Suddenly the sun seems to shine brighter and each day feels like it’s better than the last. We all want to be in love – to meet Mr. Right, get married, have kids and live happily ever after. I grew up on a steady diet of fairy tales and vegetables. So naturally, I wanted my own happy ending.

But what if love fails you?

Today a friend of mine shared me the link to a blog post by Tricia Centenera, the now-estranged wife of Filipino actor/singer/performer Gab Valenciano. I’m not a follower of her blog but after reading her post ..And So It Begins, perhaps now I will be. The post was about her broken marriage with husband Gab Valenciano. It was short but poignant – obviously straight from the heart.

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In the beginning, they were so in love. In fact, they got married three times. Once in Las Vegas and twice in the Philippines. But from being so in love, her marriage went from fairy tale to a nightmare after just less than 2 years of being together. She had never felt so broken and devastated before.

What do you do if you are hurt by the person who is supposed to protect you?

What if love fails you?

Human love can be a fickle thing. It can be perfect today and a disaster tomorrow. That’s why you can’t place all your faith on another person. Sooner or later, disappointments will come. Most issues can be worked on – if both of you are willing. But if one gives up, then saving the relationship will be next to impossible.

The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it.
-Nicholas Sparks

There is only one love that will stand the test of time. One love that will remain the same from now until forever. One love that will never fail you. That is the love of our Savior.

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But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

What if love fails me?

Then I would do what I have always sought to do – focus on Christ’s love for me. People may disappoint me, but I know the Lord never will.

Though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us does not.
C.S. Lewis

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.


The Value of Submission


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When you read the old testament, there are hundreds of rules given out by God that the Israelites must follow. At first I thought, that must be so oppressive and burdensome for them. But as I got to know God more, I realized that the rules were there mainly for the Israelites. Left to their own devices, they could become pretty destructive. Even with God guiding them, they still rebelled, complained and turned away from Him several times.

It’s easy to think that the Israelites must be a bunch of really hard-headed people. But when I look at my own life, I realize that I’m a lot like them. I used to dislike following rules and was really stubborn. If I didn’t understand a particular rule, I would not follow it. I also wasn’t very submissive.

Knowing God has changed my perspective on submission. Daily study of the bible and the desire to really know Him will change you. It will soften your heart and change your desires. And although I still don’t understand some of God’s ways I have made a commitment to submit to Him and to those he has appointed to guide me.

Last year, two churchmates of mine got married. They were both active members of CCF and had multiple ministries. After their wedding our Dgroup leader met them and encouraged them to take a year off from their ministries to focus on building their marriage. I didn’t understand it at first because, ministry is important, right? Then this morning I came across Deuteronomy 24:5. That was when I understood the wisdom of his advice.

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If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.

It is important for newlyweds to focus on their marriage on the first year so they can give it time to strengthen and mature before they face other responsibilities. The challenge of marriage is that it puts two very different people under one roof, 24/7. So the first year is a critical adjustment period for the couple to adjust to each other and ease into married life. Just like a gardener takes care of his seedlings in a pot before transplanting it into the field, a marriage is meant to be protected from outside pressures. By protecting your marriage from too many distractions and outside pressures, you’ll allow it grow strong enough to endure the trials of (married) life.

Following advice that you don’t at first understand is tough. But our mentors, leaders and parents have wisdom beyond our years. And if we listen and follow their advice, it is us who will benefit. Even if we don’t like our leaders, we are still called to submit and obey – for all authority has been put there by God. The only time we should not obey our leaders is when they ask us to do something that is morally wrong and contrary to the bible’s teachings.

Romans 13:1

Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.

Obedience is the best evidence of a life lived for God. For if we hear but don’t obey, then we are no different from non-believers.

Last year, when my boyfriend and I were still friends, he asked the permission of our Dgroup leader if he could pursue me. Instead of giving his blessing, our Dgroup leader encouraged him to pursue God first before pursuing me. You see, he had just accepted Christ in his life so he first needed to grow spiritually before turning his attention to other pursuits. He followed our leader’s advice and “protected” his new relationship with God by focusing on Him. It was only a year after, with our Dgroup leader and my moms blessing, that he finally pursued me. During that year of waiting, he was able to grow his relationship with God. Now that we’re together, our relationship is way better because he has matured spiritually.

Submitting to authority is often not easy to do. Especially if we want something (or someone) and want it now. Sometimes it is seen as a weakness. But it takes a great man to bow down low. And it takes great humility to submit.

Are you struggling with a person of authority right now? It may be your husband, your parents, your boss or the government. There is wisdom in submission. And I believe it is something that we ought to practice in our lives.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.


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