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My First Rapelling Experience and I want Learned

Last Saturday, my fiance and I tried rapelling for the first time. It was the last night of Xavier University Festival Days and our Thursday Dgroup, along with my fiance, decided to drop by after our Dgroup Christmas party to witness the festivities. As we were walking around the school, we passed by the 5-story (or was it 6?) building where the rapelling was being conducted by XU AMS. I’ve never tried rapelling before so we decided to have a go at it.

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So we climbed up the building until we got to the roof top which was the starting point. Tickets cost P99 each. Leo Fabre, one of the member of XU AMS, was kind enough to assist us with the tickets as it turned out the tickets had to be bought on the ground floor. Once we had the tickets, we were directed to an empty classroom for the orientation. It was pretty thorough. We were told what sort of equipment we would be using, the safety measures to use and how to actually do the rapelling. For those who aren’t familiar with this, rapelling is the act of moving down a steep incline. Or in our case, the side of one of XU’s tallest buildings.

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I admit I had second thoughts but I didnt really entertain those thoughts. Now why did I want to rapel down a 5 storey building? First, I’ve never tried it before. And I’m always into trying out new things. Besides, loads of other people had done it so I was sure it was totally safe. Second, I wanted to step out of my comfort zone. Roaming around XU grounds was comfortable. Trying to rapel down a 5-storey building for the first time was not. Ever since I first visited XU days I’ve always wanted to try rapelling and so I figured, now was an excellent time to try it.

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Finally, it was our turn. They hooked us up and then instructed us to step on the ledge. Then we were instructed to sit on our harness and then straighten our legs so we’d be forming an L shape. Then from that position, we just need to pull back the rope slowly with our right hand while maintaining tension with the left so we could rapel down.

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What I learned from this experience was that the hardest part was actually stepping on that ledge. But once we started rapelling down, I found that it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be. I really enjoyed it as soon as I got the hand of managing the rope. After a few minutes, our feet touched the ground safely and we just finished our first rapeling experience.

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Setting goals is a lot like rapelling (for the first time). It may seem scary at first because we don’t know what to expect yet. But once we start taking action, we realize that we can actually do it. Whenever I push myself to do something uncomfortable or challenging, I find that I gain more confidence and drive. And whenever I encounter an obstacle, I look back to the past challenges I’ve overcome and I draw strength from that.

I look at life in a holistic manner. As a business owner, I need to constantly grow and improve. And I believe trying out new things helps me do that. John Maxwell’s Law of the Lid states that your business will only grow in the extent that the leader does. It can never outgrow you. And so as a leader, you must constantly raise your lid higher and higher. Trying out new things is one way of raising your lid.

In Truly Wealthy Realty, we train and coach our affiliates to be the best real estate agents they can be. We teach them to embrace growth and new experiences. We encourage them to reach for their dreams. And in order to be an effective leader, I must first do it.

What about you? Was there always something you wanted to try but fear has kept you from doing it?

Step out of your comfort zone and just do it. There’s no time like the present to try it.

May you live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

PS. Are you interested to try real estate as a career? Please send me an email or call me at 0917 851 2752 – we’d be happy to have you as part of our growing team. We’ll train and coach you into being the best Real Estate Agent you can be. You may check our official website – http://www.trulywealthyrealty.com

My Thoughts on Leadership

When we founded Truly Wealthy Realty 5 years ago, there were only 4 of us at the helm. We did everything from marketing to accounting to office management. Actually, we didn’t even have an office yet. We just held a home office at Mitch’s house and all our records were kept in one tiny red box. Now, 5 years later, Truly Wealthy Realty occupies the entire second floor of Neri Building and we have dozens of people in the team.

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God has blessed Truly Wealthy Realty so much and I’m very thankful for what the realty has become. Yet we are still so far from our goals. There is so much more that needs to be done. What I realized in my years as a real estate broker here in Cagayan de Oro is that it’s  a lot easier to be a broker than a leader. As a broker, I just need to take care of my clients real estate needs and that’s it. I don’t even think of it as work because many of my clients are such a pleasure to work with. I think of it more of as helping out a friend. But because the realty has grown, many more people have come to join the team. And now, as a Team Leader, I need to lead these people. And leading people, well, it’s a challenge.

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Every person is different so you’re style of leadership for each individual must be unique. Plus, millennials are even tougher to lead. I should know, because I’m one myself. We millennials are no longer driven solely by money but also by our passions, ideals and beliefs. It’s something that baffles the past generation because in their era, to work solely to make a living was fine. But now, in our era, we don’t only want to make a living. We want to make a difference.

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As I learned from one of my mentors, Francis Endaya, you need to delve in why the person is doing what he’s doing. What is his why? You need to look out for what motivates the person, what makes him tick, what drives him…You need to get to know a person on a deeper level in order to lead effectively.

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Being a leader is hard because to lead effectively, you need to grow constantly. You can’t give what you don’t have. So leaders need to constantly improve their game. They need to work twice as hard and learn fast. Being a leader means you must also be self-aware. Awareness is powerful because once you are self-aware, you know what your strengths and weaknesses are. And then you can improve on your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Lastly, a good leader leads with humility. Because ultimately, leadership is about service. It’s not about lording it over people but about bringing yourself down to serve. Humility is about saying you’re sorry even if it’s not even your fault. It’s about learning to apologize when it is your fault. It’s about being accountable for your actions when you’ve made the wrong decision.

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I believe humility is the most powerful trait a leader can have. Because it’s only when you’re humble that you can grow and become a better person. Jesus is the ultimate symbol of true humility. He is God and yet he knelt down to wash the feet of his disciples.

Leadership is not easy. In fact, it’s really hard. But to be able to be part of another persons growth, to be able to contribute to his success is one of the most rewarding experiences in the world. And so I will continue to be a leader – in Truly Wealthy Realty, in our Discipleship Group and wherever God calls me to lead. Because the things in this world will fade away but when you lead, you leave an imprint on the lives of people that they in turn can pass on to others.

What about you?

Are you being called to lead but find yourself resisting the call? The world needs more leaders to pave the way to a better future. Rise to the challenge. Take the call. Go Lead.

Go life a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

 

Why you should Set SMART Goals

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Goal setting is critical to achieving your goals in life no matter what they may be. We all want to achieve different things. And the first step to achievement is clarity. Once you are clear about what you want, you have a good chance of actually achieving it.

When it comes to goal setting, it’s important to set SMART goals. This is an acronym that I learned back in college and it has proven time and time again to be very effective. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time bound.

Last month I set a goal to learn double unders by the end of November. For those who aren’t familiar with this, a double under is an exercise done on a jump rope popularized by Crossfit. Its similar to your regular jump rope except that the rope makes two revolutions per jump instead of just one. The first double under appeared in Crossfit.com in 2001. So in order to accomplish this, you need to jump higher, flip the rope faster and practice. A lot. So practice I did. I started going to the box 30 minutes early whenever I could so I could practice my double unders. It may look easy but it’s a very tiring skill to master.

I practiced for weeks to no avail. I could only do 1-2 double unders at a time and it wasnt enough. The days slipped by swiftly until it was the last week of November already. I was at the end of my timeline! Then today, I practiced double unders again and I got it. Finally.

The reason why a lot of people don’t get what they want is because they are unclear about what they really want. For instance, a common goal of most people is the desire to be financially wealthy. But rich can be relative. How rich do you want to be? How many millions do you want to accumulate? What’s the timeline? Instead of saying, “I want to be rich”, a better goal would be, “I want to accumulate 2M by Dec 2018.” It’s specific, measurable, achievable, realistic (well this will depend on how you plan to do it), measurable and time bound. Or perhaps your goal is to lose weight. How much would you like to way? What’s your timeline? What’s your strategy?

Dreams are goals with a deadline.
-Napoleon Hill

Whenever I set goals I specify what I want. Then I place a time line. Then I decide on my strategy. And then I do it. Whether it’s achievable or realistic, that’s entirely up to my mindset. I’ve decide way before that I can do anything I set my mind to. And so can you. Its also important to write down your goals. Goals become clearer when they’re written down. Then chunk down your big goals into smaller,bite size pieces. Just like in Crossfit, if you cant do the actual workout yet, you can scale do to an easier version.  The important thing is there’s progress in every workout. Whenever you achieve a goal, you gain confidence and momentum.

I apply this practice of goal setting not only with Crossfit but with every area of my life. With my work as a Real Estate Broker here in Cagayan de Oro, with our company – Truly Wealthy Realty, with my relationships with Christ and other people. It has truly served me well. I hope you can try it out too. You wont regret it.

The world is ours to create. Success comes from the inside out. Believe you can and you can.

May you live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

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If you learned something from this post, message me or leave a comment below. Id be happy to hear from you.

The Power of Being Self-aware

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Do you know yourself?

Self-awareness is a powerful thing. We are complex beings and despite the amount of time I have spent being me, I still discover new things about myself each day. Self-awareness does not come in an instant. You will need to spend time analyzing your actions and studying yourself.

Here’s a simple exercise to check if you are self-aware. Ask yourself these questions:

What is my personality type?
Am I an introvert or an extrovert?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What motivates me?
What excites me?

Now you may think, why do I need to study myself?

To excel in life, you need to know who you really are.

Once you know yourself, you’ll know how to motivate and empower yourself to do the things you should do. You’ll know what your strengths and weaknesses are. You’ll be able to identify the personality types you can work best with.

A simple way you can apply self-awareness in your life is in choosing your career. For instance, I’m an extrovert. I love meeting people and learning from them. My weaknesses are, I’m not very detail-oriented as I’m a big picture kind of person. I don’t like math. I tend to take a while when it comes to solving stuff. My strengths are public speaking, networking with people and I also enjoy anything that involves music and art. I don’t like routine. I enjoy doing something different everyday and learning new things.

I’m a nurse by profession and when I graduated college, I tried working as a nurse for a year. A nurse requires attention to detail because you can’t afford make a mistake. You’re dealing with peoples lives so it’s important that you check and recheck everything. I remember that before every shift I would pray that I wouldn’t make a mistake and everything would just go smoothly. Suffice to say, just a few months into working as a nurse, I had confirmed that it wasn’t the career for me. It required a lot of attention to detail, which is not my strength. And the work was routinary, which did not suit my personality type.

Now, I’m working full time as a real estate broker here in Cagayan de Oro City. The job requires that I meet and speak to a lot of people everyday. I don’t have to go to our office unless we have a board meeting. Everyday is different and I get to work on my own time. Since being a real estate broker involves meeting quotas, I need to think of creative ways to share our available listings to our clients. Being a real estate broker is the perfect fit to my personality type and strengths. Because this career fits me so well, I get to enjoy my job while making money.

Life is too short to be stuck in a job you hate or are not good at. When you choose a career that does not fit you, you’ll have to work twice as hard just to survive. But when your job is inclined to your strengths, then that, combined with a lot of hard work will allow you to soar to great heights. Think of the most successful people you know. Chances are, the career they have chosen is inclined to their natural strengths and personality type.

Self-awareness is a powerful thing. When you are self-aware, you open so many doors. You’ll know the opportunities to say yes to, and which ones to say no to.

So now let me ask you, do you know yourself?

If yes, good for you. You can now start applying what you know about you in your life so you can be on your way to becoming a success.

If no, perhaps it’s time to get to know you. Take a this Myers Briggs Personality Test. This can help you start to know yourself.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life!

-Alex

Expand Your Leadership

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Leadership is a privilege. But it not something that many people embrace willingly.

Leadership is not easy because, frankly, it’s a huge responsibility. I’m ashamed to say that there were a few times in my life where I declined to take on a leadership position because I didn’t feel like I was ready for it. But now, as the CEO of Truly Wealthy Realty, I need to step up and expand my reach as a leader. I can no longer hide from responsibility because God has given me the privilege of leading these people. And they deserve the best that I can give them.

Today, I listened to Jossy Chacko as he talked about ways to expand leadership.Jossy Chacko is the Founder and President of Empart, a global ministry that exists to ignite holistic community transformation among the unreached and needy people of Asia. Empart’s primary goal is to see 100,000 communities transformed by 2030.

According to Jossy, since leaders are trusted with more, then we should embrace the privilege to lead with all our hearts. We can expand our reach as leaders by first, enlarging our vision. We should not focus what we are doing now but learn to see the bigger picture. Leaders are visionaries. It’s only when we see the big picture that we can be able to achieve great things for Gods glory.

Second, leaders empower people. There are leaders all around us just waiting to be discovered. When we empower people, we impart to them the confidence and ability to soar high. Jacko further gave us 3 ways on how to empower people. Read full post on that HERE.

Lastly, embrace risk. Or as Christians would say, step out in faith. Where there is no risk, there’s no growth. The enemy of growth is being comfortable. When we become too comfortable where we are, we stop stretching and growing.

God has not given us the spirit of fear. So as followers of Christ, we should be the most risk-taking, audacious people on earth. When we stop taking risks, we prevent ourselves from reaching our full potential.

-Jossy Chacko

It’s easy to take risks when you’re still beginning, when you have nothing to lose. But when you’ve built something from nothing, you begin to fear losing what you have. When I started Truly Wealthy Realty with my partners, we were almost fearless in setting goals. We dreamt big and had lofty ambitions. Now, I think we need to step out in faith again in order to take the realty even further. Fear is crippling. Just like the 3rd servant who hid his denari in the ground because he was afraid of losing it, I don’t want to hide my God-given abilities. I want to use it to grow my potential and stretch my ability as a leader.What about you? Are you constantly expanding your reach as a leader? Decide to expand your reach by enlarging your vision, empowering people and embracing risk.

Leadership is a privilege. Many are called but few are chosen. If you are chosen to lead, embrace it. Do your best. Add value.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

 

How to Empower People

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I had to opportunity to attend the Global Leadership Summit for the past 2 days. Here, I was able to listen to great speakers like John Maxwell, Bill Hybels and Melinda Gates speak on a variety of topics. One of the speakers was Jossy Chacko – the Founder and President of Empart, a global ministry that exists to ignite holistic community transformation among the unreached and needy people of Asia. Empart’s primary goal is to see 100,000 communities transformed by 2030.

His topic was about expanding leadership. Part of the process of expanding leadership is knowing how to empower people. As a leader, you cannot do everything yourself. You must raise leaders to share in the work with you so you can accomplish more as a team.

Jossy gave 3 tips on how to empower people which I found very useful so I want to share this with you.

How to Empower People

1.Focus on building the character before you empower them

Great leaders don’t just pass on information. They build character. The biggest leadership failures are not because of the lack of talent or ability, but of character. As a leader, it is your responsibility to build the character first your mentees before empowering them. Otherwise, you could be building up a potential time bomb.

2.Build a relationship with your mentees

Leadership is not about leading from the front or from the back, but alongside. The better your relationship is with your mentees, the more influential you’ll be to them. And the better you’ll be able to lead them.

3.Make sure you have agreed on the right outcomes

You cant get to where you want to go if you don’t know where you are going. From the very start, agree on an outcome. This will allow you to focus on the goal and reach it much faster. Clarity breeds competence. Make KPI’s. Evaluate. Measure.

Again, being able to empower people is key to successful leadership. Let’s take the time to carefully consider, who among our team can we empower today?

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

 

 

Exploring the Art of Performance Workshop

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I’ve always been a fan of art. From painting to drawing to music. Acting is also another art form which you can use to express yourself. You can just lose yourself in the character you’re portraying and become a whole other person.

For those who want to enhance their talent in stage acting, i have good news for you. The 3rd year Communication and Multimedia Arts students will be conducting a theater stage workshop entitled “Exploring the Art of Performance”. It will include exercises and activities to enhance the individual’s talent in stage acting.

Venue: Luxembourg Hall of Southville International School and Colleges, Las Pinas City
Date: January 14, Saturday
Time: 8:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.

For inquiries, please call or text: 09778220176 (Globe) 09208217505 (Smart)
To register online, click HERE.

Hope you have fun!

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

 

10 Things I Love About being a Real Estate Broker

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  1. Time freedom. No time ins or outs. I can work when I want, where I want. I get to schedule my work around my play instead of the other way around.
  2. Unlimited income potential. I get to earn whatever I want – sky is the limit! Provided that I work at it, of course.
  3. Not having to file vacation leaves whenever I want to go on vacation.
  4. Being on the go everyday. I’m just not an office person. I’d get bored in 5 minutes. I like being constantly mobile, running from one location to another.
  5. Everyday is different. No day is the same for me. I can be meeting 4 clients today and tomorrow I’d be chilling at a coffee shop or mentoring one of our affiliates. I’m not one for routines. I like having a difference schedule everyday. It keeps me on my toes and it makes going to work (or play) everyday exciting.
  6. Meeting people. I love meeting a lot of people and building great (and lasting relationships) with my partners (they’re the best!), affiliates (they’re awesome) and clients (best clients ever!). I’m just so lucky to have these people in my life.
  7. Being able to help my clients buy or sell property. It’s one of the most rewarding experiences – next to discipleship. I always get a kick seeing my clients buy their dream home or sell a property and get to use that money to reach other goals.
  8. Mentoring our affiliate brokers and salespersons and helping them succeed in every area of life. It’s a great privilege to be able to influence other people like that. I consider Truly Wealthy Realty to be more than just a company. We are a family.
  9. Attending events – all kinds of events. Developers and banks have loads of those.
  10. Having the opportunity to share the gospel to a lot of people.

The Value of Submission

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When you read the old testament, there are hundreds of rules given out by God that the Israelites must follow. At first I thought, that must be so oppressive and burdensome for them. But as I got to know God more, I realized that the rules were there mainly for the Israelites. Left to their own devices, they could become pretty destructive. Even with God guiding them, they still rebelled, complained and turned away from Him several times.

It’s easy to think that the Israelites must be a bunch of really hard-headed people. But when I look at my own life, I realize that I’m a lot like them. I used to dislike following rules and was really stubborn. If I didn’t understand a particular rule, I would not follow it. I also wasn’t very submissive.

Knowing God has changed my perspective on submission. Daily study of the bible and the desire to really know Him will change you. It will soften your heart and change your desires. And although I still don’t understand some of God’s ways I have made a commitment to submit to Him and to those he has appointed to guide me.

Last year, two churchmates of mine got married. They were both active members of CCF and had multiple ministries. After their wedding our Dgroup leader met them and encouraged them to take a year off from their ministries to focus on building their marriage. I didn’t understand it at first because, ministry is important, right? Then this morning I came across Deuteronomy 24:5. That was when I understood the wisdom of his advice.

Deuteronomy 24:5

If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.

It is important for newlyweds to focus on their marriage on the first year so they can give it time to strengthen and mature before they face other responsibilities. The challenge of marriage is that it puts two very different people under one roof, 24/7. So the first year is a critical adjustment period for the couple to adjust to each other and ease into married life. Just like a gardener takes care of his seedlings in a pot before transplanting it into the field, a marriage is meant to be protected from outside pressures. By protecting your marriage from too many distractions and outside pressures, you’ll allow it grow strong enough to endure the trials of (married) life.

Following advice that you don’t at first understand is tough. But our mentors, leaders and parents have wisdom beyond our years. And if we listen and follow their advice, it is us who will benefit. Even if we don’t like our leaders, we are still called to submit and obey – for all authority has been put there by God. The only time we should not obey our leaders is when they ask us to do something that is morally wrong and contrary to the bible’s teachings.

Romans 13:1

Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God.

Obedience is the best evidence of a life lived for God. For if we hear but don’t obey, then we are no different from non-believers.

Last year, when my boyfriend and I were still friends, he asked the permission of our Dgroup leader if he could pursue me. Instead of giving his blessing, our Dgroup leader encouraged him to pursue God first before pursuing me. You see, he had just accepted Christ in his life so he first needed to grow spiritually before turning his attention to other pursuits. He followed our leader’s advice and “protected” his new relationship with God by focusing on Him. It was only a year after, with our Dgroup leader and my moms blessing, that he finally pursued me. During that year of waiting, he was able to grow his relationship with God. Now that we’re together, our relationship is way better because he has matured spiritually.

Submitting to authority is often not easy to do. Especially if we want something (or someone) and want it now. Sometimes it is seen as a weakness. But it takes a great man to bow down low. And it takes great humility to submit.

Are you struggling with a person of authority right now? It may be your husband, your parents, your boss or the government. There is wisdom in submission. And I believe it is something that we ought to practice in our lives.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

The Power of Clarity

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One thing that successful people have in common is clarity. They are very specific about the goals that they want to achieve.

It makes sense. How can you get what you want if you don’t know (or are not very clear) about what you want? Goal setting has always been an effective way for me to reach my goals. I would sit down, and write down what I want.

One of the things I learned in nursing was that you had to set SMART goals. SMART is an acronym that stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound.

A friend of mine said, “My goal is to be happy.” That’s a reasonable goal. I, too, want to be happy. I mean, who wants to be miserable? To be happy is a good goal. But it’s not very SMART. How do you define happiness? Is it having a happy family? Traveling the world? Being successful in your career? A vague goal is hard to achieve. So it’s important to be as specific as possible.

Or let’s say your goal is to be “financially independent.” How do you define financial independence? Is it an income of P50,000 a month? P500,000 month? Or 1 million a month? Also, set a realistic deadline. If you earn P20,000 a month now, saying that you would like to have a million pesos next month isn’t very realistic. Maybe you can start with P50,000, then P100,000 and so on. Once you’ve set a specific and realistic goal, put a deadline. When would you like to achieve your goal of financial independence? This year, next year, or in five years?

A goal is a dream with a deadline.

-Napoleon Hill

We first have to be clear about our goals. When our goals are clear, then we will be able to come up with how we can achieve them. The “what” comes first. The “how” comes after.

Whatever you want, write them down. Draw pictures. Pinterest your goals. Seeing them clearly will motivate you to work towards achieving them. We humans are intrinsically teleological creatures. The word teleology comes from the greek word telos which means meaning or purpose. This means that we are very goal-oriented. We function better when we know what the purpose for our labor is. What the end goal is.

Humans are capable of intentionally pursuing goals that they consciously set for themselves, and thus a different order of teleology applies to them, one which places them in the domain of ethics and politics.

– Monte Ransome Johnson

When I was in high school, I dreamt of being the CEO of my own company. I wanted to run my own business and have the time of my life doing it. Fast forward 13 years later and that dream has come true.

I don’t believe that I’m better than anyone. In fact, there are tons of people that I can think of who are way better than I am. But it’s not about having a high IQ, it’s about setting SMART goals and working on them.

Matthew 7:7-8

Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened.

We all have goals we want to achieve. The question is, have you taken the time to actually write them down?

If you haven’t perhaps you can take the time to do them today.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life.

-Alex

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