I love weddings. It’s the promise of forever, the exciting adventure a couple has in store for them and the blossoming of a new life, as one, that has me all starry-eyed. I’m really a romantic a heart. It must have been all those novels I read back in high school.
Last weekend, two of my churchmates at CCF decided to tie the knot after 5 years of being in a relationship. It was a beautiful wedding. The venue was on a hill, overlooking Cagayan de Oro City. It was intimate, with only the bride and grooms family and close friends in attendance. And when they said “I do”, it was during sunset. I felt like I was looking at a lovely painting with the sky bursting into a myriad of red and orange colors.
I love weddings. Most people do. But sometimes we can get so caught up in the wedding, we fail to prepare for the marriage.
Back then, my idea of love was candle light dinners, barefoot walks on the beach under a star-lit sky and surprise dates. I thought this was what love was. But then someone shared Jesus to me, and his way of loving totally changed my perspective. Love was much more (and much harder) than what I thought it was. He taught me that love is patient, it is kind. It does not envy, does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.His definition of love was so far from my feel-good, fuzzy definition of it. Love is about humility and commitment.
I loved their wedding. But what I loved more was their courtship. At the onset of their relationship, both the bride and groom committed to honor God and put Him in the center. And that included maintaining their purity. There were a lot of struggles and temptations. But at the end, they shared their first kiss during the ceremony.
I was greatly encouraged by their story, because although they are far from perfect (no one is), they proved, that keeping your purity during courtship is possible. Their desire to honor God was like a glass of cold, fresh water on a scorching hot day – refreshing and inspiring. The attitude I see today is “It’s too hard, why even try?” But as this couple proved, it is possible. But only through God’s grace.
It’s not really about being righteous or comparing yourself to others. We all have our own journey to make. This is about having a close and personal relationship with God. It’s about putting him in the center of your life. Because once he’s your priority, you will want to obey and honor him.
Marriage is a gift from God to us. The quality of our marriage is a gift from us to him.
-L. Whitney Clayton
I love weddings. But what I love more is the endless possibilities that will come after it. Sugar and Kileab, I know that you’ll have an even more beautiful marriage, as long as you both keep God at the center of your relationship and allow him to continue writing your love story.
May you live a Truly Wealthy life.