How to Find Your God’s Best

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God’s Best is a term I hear a lot at church. “You need to wait for your God’s Best.” Or “How do you know if he’s your God’s Best?”.

But what does the term “God’s Best” even mean?

Does it mean that out of the billions of people here on Earth, there is just one person destined for you alone? Or does it simply mean, choosing the “best” among the rest?

My friend, Stef and I, were talking about the God’s Best concept on our taxi ride from Sucat to NAIA. We had just attended a friend’s wedding in Manila and so it brought about the whole God’s Best conversation.

I have friends who believe that love is about destiny – that there is just one person meant to love you and for you to fall in love with. But our take on that is, love is a choice. You choose who to fall in love with. You just need to make the best choice based on the values important to you.

The man I choose to love, I choose to love. Love is a choice, not a matter of destiny. It is a choice renewed each day.

Destiny isn’t something we have control over. And since God has given us freewill to make our own choices, the concept of destiny goes against that. I believe the gift of freewill includes making the choice on who to love. Of course this decision should be made with Godly principles in mind. Because love isn’t all about passion or romance. Love should be guided by principles. It means doing what’s best for the other person. It means pointing each other towards God.

How will you know if a person is God’s Best for you?

Get to know that person.

Check his spiritual maturity.

Find out what his values are.

Look at his character.

See the real him and not just how you want to see him. And in order to get to know someone, you need to spend time with him. Preferably in a group so as to minimize temptation.

Getting to know someone is like walking on a tightrope. You need to hold back just enough to avoid diving in too soon and at the same time, you need to open up so you can really get to know each other.

You’ll also need to ask unromantic but necessary questions like:

Is he responsible? How does he handle money? Is he a family man? How does he treat the women in his family (because that’s also how he’ll treat you)? Is he someone I can grow with? Can I handle his worst traits? Do our personalities complement each other? Do we have the same core values? Is he spiritually mature? Does he love God more than anything/anyone?

“With or without God, good decisions can be made; But only with God will great decisions be made.”

-Damon Thueson

You don’t fall in love by accident. There is always a desire to take the plunge. Just make sure that love sticks around, to pick you up when you fall. In the end, it still falls on us to make the choice.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life!


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