It was a full house tonight as we launched Session 1 of the Love & Dating Series: The Right Person Myth. Our speaker for the first Session was Mr. Mel Santos – an educator and entrepreneur who actively serves Christ’s Commission Fellowship CDO alongside with his lovely wife.
Single men and women tend to have 2 main priorities – career and love life. Just ask single people you know and they’ll answer with either one or the other – if not both. According to Eden Ahbez, the greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return. To be in love is such a glorious and wonderful feeling. And this is why so many singles flit like butterflies from one person to the next in their search for the “right person.” But as our speaker so eloquently said, there is no such thing as the “right person”. Because it takes two people – not one – the make a relationship work.
So if there is no right person – what then should we do? Should we despair of finding our happily ever after? Should we stop searching before we even begin?
The answer lies within us. Instead of continuously searching for the right person – Be The Right Person. Be the person you yourself would like to marry.
Think about it. Would you marry, you?
How then can we be the right person? In order to achieve a goal, we should have a model. Someone to look up to and follow. In order to be the right person, we should let the right person in. That person is Jesus Christ.
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.
– John 3:16
There maybe tons of saints and heroes in the world – but there is no better model of love than Jesus Christ. He lived and died for you and me so our sins could be forgiven. The greatest thing you can give to others is your life. Nothing can top that.
Choosing to say yes to God was the best decision I ever made. Letting Christ in my life has made my life better in every way. He has completed the emptiness within me. He makes me want to be better, more kind, more patient, generous and loving. The more I focus on him, the more I grow to become the “right person”. Not perfect – but a little better each day. And as long as I’m better than I was the day before, that’s enough for me. A little progress everyday is better than no progress at all.
So how should we love?
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres
-1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Haven’t you ever wondered what comes after “and they lived happily ever after”?
To love someone unconditionally is no mean feat. Because that person, like you, is imperfect and flawed. So singles, don’t be in such a rush to get married. Enjoy this season in your lives. Focus on becoming the right person – the person you would like to marry. So that when you meet “the one” , you’re ready.
Go live a Truly Wealthy life.
For those who attended Session 1, I hope you enjoyed the talk. We’d like to invite you to Session 2: The Person I Like. Session 1 debunked the right person myth. Session 2 will be focusing on how to become the right person.