The 2nd weekend of Ike Pono was different from the first. This time it was more upbeat as we focused more on goal setting and creating visions. There were more activities and games too. One of the best ways to teach is through games. Even the simplest games can carry heavy lessons when you look at it in a different perspective.
As we did the many activities and games, what struck me was that most people want the same things in life. We have similar goals – financial freedom, happy family, trips abroad, great relationships. Of course we had divergents. One made it a goal to have 50M followers on Instagram in 20 years. (Please help make her dream come true by following her on IG @Libnifortuna). 😛 But for the most part, we had similar dreams.
The question is, are your dreams what you truly want?
On the 2nd weekend of Ike Pono, we were taught to not only set goals, but to set the right goals – the ones that you really want. You may be wondering, “Why am I still not successful?” Maybe those aren’t really the goals that you want. Maybe the goals you have are the ones that others picked for you. You need to find what you really want. Your true choice. When you do, success will come. It’s just a matter of time. When you truly want something you will stop at nothing in order to achieve it.
Another thing I learned about goal setting is the importance of focus. In order to achieve your goal, there are a lot of things we must do. A process we should follow. The danger of that is we tend to focus too much on what we are doing that we take our eyes off the prize. The moment we do this, we lose. In order to win, we must never lose focus of our real goal. The successful man is the average man, focused. Even the sun’s rays don’t burn unless brought to a focus.
Even the bible stresses on the importance of focusing on your goal.
Brothers and sisters, I don’t consider myself to have attained this. Instead I am single-minded: Forgetting the things that are behind and reaching out for the things that are ahead, with this goal in mind, I strive toward the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
-Philippians 3: 13-14
Aside from knowing your true goals and focusing on them, knowing how to communicate and relate well to others is also important. A high EQ is necessary for success.
How do you come off to other people?
I learned from Toastmasters that “It’s not about what your say. It’s how you say it.” This has been affirmed during the Ike Pono Seminar. Your pitch, volume, tone will affect how you come across to others. Knowing how to relate to people is also important because success is a team effort. You can’t do it on your own.
We often refuse to accept an idea merely because the tone of voice in which it has been expressed is unsympathetic to us.
— Friedrich Nietzsche
The ability to communicate well is vital both in the work place and in relationships. According to Robert Waldinger in his TED talk “What Makes a Good Life? Lessons in the Longest Study on Happiness”, the main determining factor to success is not money or fame. It’s in the quality of your relationships. People who have good relationships are healthier, happier and more fulfilled. This conclusion was the result of a study on happiness that was conducted for 75 years. Ike Pono is mainly about maintaining good relationships with others – Love and Respect. Treat people as you want to be treated. Stop expecting people to be perfect and accept them for who they truly are. Once you do this, you will learn to truly love unconditionally.
Go live a Truly Wealthy life.
Check out my My Ike Pono Experience (Day 1-3) post HERE