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In the 19th Century, it was customary for women to get married either in their late teens or early 20’s. If a woman reached the age of 24 and she was still unmarried, she would be considered a spinster (gasp!).
Now, 30 seems to be the new 24. Today, if you are 30 years old (or more than 30) and remain single, then you are considered to be “on the shelf”. The world often has its own timeline as to when women should be getting married. And that timeline changes from time to time.
I often get asked by my clients about my love life: Do you have a boyfriend? Why don’t you have a boyfriend? What are you looking for in a guy? When do you plan to get married? Even my relatives keep on pestering me as to when I’d “settle down”.
I have one aunt who keeps on telling me, “Alex, you shouldn’t have too high standards. Lower them a little.”
“Yes, dear aunt. Unfortunately my standards are so high only Jesus can reach them.”
Yes. Being a single, successful woman can often be a little daunting because society expects us to get married at a certain age and conceive as soon as possible. It’s almost as if getting married were a race or something.
According to Shirley Maya in her blog The Art of Fearless Living, There are far worse things than being alone – it is being with the wrong person.
Do you feel pressured by the world to be in a relationship or to get married? Don’t be. Just because all your friends are getting hitched doesn’t mean you should too. We all have our own love story. If you haven’t met Mr. Right yet, perhaps God is still writing your love story. In the meantime, instead of bemoaning your singlehood, enjoy it! Use the time mold yourself into being Ms. Right.
Even Carry Bradshaw was single for a long time before she found her Mr. Big.
You may be tempted to be in a relationship just for the sake of being with someone. Don’t be. The worst thing that can happen is that you end up going ahead of God and miss out on His amazing plan for you. Our pastors at CCF keep on reminding us to “wait for God’s Best.” And that is what I have decided to do. You don’t have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince. I, for one, prefer to go straight for my prince, thank you very much. Think about it, would you really like to kiss a frog? I mean, really? Ergo, fellow single ladies, you don’t need to go through dozens of boyfriends to find The One. When it comes to love, it’s better to tread very carefully.
A friend of mine asked me before, “You seem content being single. Don’t you want a boyfriend?”
To which I answered, “A boyfriend isn’t something that you look for. I’m sure the man for me will come at the right time.”
To which he answered, “Wow, that’s confidence!”
I just smiled and replied, “No, that’s faith.”
Embrace your awesomeness. Be single and fabulous!
“Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you’re pretty sexy and you’re taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.” – Carry Bradshaw
Go live a Truly Wealthy life!