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Love & Dating Series

LSD Poster mainHow would you like to become Mr Right or Ms Right? Or for those in a relationship, improve the relationship you are currently in? Or maybe you simply want to prepare yourself for marriage – to be the right person for your future spouse.

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this series is for you. B1G – the singles community of CCF – is organizing a Love, Sex and Dating Series. It’s a 4-part series that will run for 4 weeks. We all have our own opinion on these 3 areas that form a large part of the lives of singles.We like the idea of falling in love and we hope that it lasts. So some of us go on date after date hoping to find “the one”. But have we thought about Love, Sex and Dating according to God’s point of view? When you go along with God’s plan, you’ll experience less heartbreak.

The purpose of this series is to share to Singles about Love, Sex and Dating according to God’s perspective.

Love, Sex and Dating Topics:

SESSION 1: Love and the Right Person
Relational success that is foolproof against today’s instant gratification culture
Speaker: Mr. Mel Santos

SESSION 2: The Person I Like
Treating the opposite sex in a manner that they’d like to stay on with you
Speaker: Mr. Pope Valmores

SESSION 3: Designer Sex
Fantastic satisfaction guaranteed, if you can follow through on some simple guidelines
Speaker: Mr. Mike Tuyan

SESSION 4: Preparation Trumps Commitment
Becoming the person others are looking for as a lifetime partner
Speaker: Mr. Mel Santos

Ticket Outlets:
CCF CDO (Beside Redtail Ketkai)
Silver Glam Limketkai
7/11 Corrales
Mindys Restaurant Yacapin

For reservations contact: 0917 851 2752

Most singles dream of meeting Mr./Ms Right, falling in love and living happily ever after. But falling in love is easy. Staying in love – that takes work. Why not prepare for marriage even while your single. School prepares us to be good employees. But what preparation are you doing so you can be great spouse in the future? Even if you feel like marriage may not be for you, this Series will help you improve in the way you deal with the opposite sex. Give it a try. You wont regret it.

Go live a Truly Wealthy Life.

-Alex

I’m Engaged!


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Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve always been into fairy tales and happily ever afters. My grandmother, who was a teacher, would read me fairy tales before bedtime. And so I grew up believing that one day, my Prince would come. Now, he finally has. I’m engaged!

engagedLast February 10 my boyfriend proposed to me. I’ve always been wanted romance and flair, and that night I got it. After my brothers wedding in Chateau de Busay, my boyfriend, in front of my family and close friends, got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. The setting was perfect. Aside from the romantic venue with the great view, what made it so memorable to me was the presence of my family – some of who are based abroad and other parts of the Philippines. My business partners, Stef and Mitch, also flew all the way from CDO to be part of the proposal. They’re the best partners ever. What made it even more surprising was that I totally had no idea Jong was going to propose that night. I’m usually very intuitive when it comes to these things, but I guess I got so distracted by the wedding I didn’t see it coming.

Ours was a love story that didn’t happen in an instant. In fact, Jong had to wait for almost a year before he could formally court me. But I guess the best things in life can’t be rushed. Now, I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this amazing guy that taught me how to be to love selflessly. We are total opposites and yet we have the same mindset in many things. We both love to learn and we challenge each other to grow in the different key areas of life. He is not only a man I can love, but  he’s also someone I can follow.

To all the girls out there who are still waiting for their Prince Charming, don’t give up. Someday, he’ll come and you’ll have your fairy tale moment when he gets down on one knee and asks for your hand in marriage. In the meantime, work on being Ms. Right. Put your relationship with God first because when He is first, everything falls into place.  

Here’s a video of our proposal :)

Session 1 of 50 Shades of LOVE: Human Love vs Gods Love

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It’s the month of love once again and sure enough, all around are signs that Valentines Day is fast approaching. Falling in love is something that most of us dream of doing. How can we not when the movies depict love as something that’s exciting and wonderful and exhilarating?

But, what does love really mean? Is it the candlelit dinners, chocolates and flowers and stuffed toys? Or is it much more than that?

To define the real meaning of love, let’s go back to the author of love. This is Session 1 of 50 Shades of Red – as shared by the speaker Mr. Mel Santos – Human love vs God’s love.

This is how God defines love.

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

-Romans 5:8

Love is so much more than what we feel. Love is action-oriented. It’s selfless, something that is to be channeled towards others. But we need to know God’s love first before we can give it to others. We can’t give what we don’t have.

For relationships, this is a good standard of what love is.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

-1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

To truly love others we need to have the right definition of love. Love as God defines it.

Romantic (World) Biblical (1 Corinthians 13)
Emotional (centered of feelings) Commitment (a decision)
Hasty (whirlwind romance) Patient (willing to go through the right process)
Self-serving (what can I get?) Unselfish (what can I give?)
Temporary (until I’m no longer happy) Enduring (forever)
Self-motivated God motivated  (God as the center)

 

When it comes to romantic love, it can be hard to separate what’s real from your emotions. It “feels” right, so I should be with this person. Or, he makes me so happy. He must be the one. But how do you know if a person is your Gods Best? You must go through the right process.

Friendship – Courtship – Marriage

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These days courtship is no longer done by singles. Instead, it has been replaced with “dating”. And no, its not the same thing.

What’s the difference between dating and courtship?

Dating is based solely on attraction

Courtship is based on attraction and trusted counsel. You need to ask your parents, spiritual mentors, close friends if this person that you’re thinking of courting is right for you. These are the people that know and love you and they only want what’s best for you.

Dating is about impressing the other person. It’s putting your best foot to make that person like you.

Courtship is about being honest and building trust. It’s showing the other person who you truly are.

Dating involves only the two of you.

Courtship involves God, parents (blessings), mentors (advise) and friends.

Dating is secretive. You go out and tell no one. You don’t really share your love life with others.

Courtship is public. Its about being open to the people you trust about what’s happening between the two of you.

Dating is impulsive, short sighted.

Courtship is intentional. Planned > engagement > marriage. The intention of courtship should be marriage.

Dating puts intimacy first before commitment.

Courtship puts commitment before intimacy.

Courting is about intentionally building a foundation for marriage.

You may think it’s hard to find love these days. And if you look for it in the world, you’re right. Because the world defines love in a very different way. But if you look for love in the right place, the author, Jesus – you will never be disappointed.

Seek him first and all else will follow.

If you want to fall in love, by all means, do. But be sure to follow the process so you’ll avoid unnecessary pain and have your happy ending.

-Alex

PS

This is only Session 1 of the 4 Series of 50 Shades of Red. For those who want to join the remaining 3 sessions, you may drop by Elevate Hub, CCF, Limketkai next Friday at 6:30pm. Bring a friend!

50 Shades of LOVE Series
Session 1: Human Love vs Gods Love (Feb 12)
Session 2: Love and Sexuality (Feb 19)
Session 3: Love and Being Singe – Mr. Right/Ms. Right (Feb 26)
Session 4: New Rules in Dating (March 4)

 

 

 

To Love or Not to Love?

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Human beings, by nature, yearn to love and be loved. We all want to have that special someone whome we can share moments and memories with. And yet, when true love comes along, we surround ourselves with walls to avoid getting hurt. We tend to withdraw early into the relationship to avoid the pain. We put up defenses to avoid being vulnerable.

I have always been like this. I have never allowed myself to love anyone fully because I didn’t want to be vulnerable. Why put yourself at the mercy of one person? And so, I have always held back with love.

Then I realized, by holding back, I was only cheating myself out of my happy ending. How could I experience true love if I didn’t allow myself to love truly, madly and deeply? (Enter Savage Garden song) I’m so fearless when it comes to other things but when it comes to love, I can be such a chicken.

The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return. -Moulin Rouge

Since my theme for this year is Fearless 2015, I’m applying that theme to love as well. For the first time, I won’t be afraid to love unconditionally, to love fully, to love truly. I want to be able to love people the same way God loves me – unconditionally and without limits.

If you love truly, you can never lose, as love is always beautiful.

It’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. -Alfred Lord Tennyson

What about you? Are you holding back from love because you are afraid of getting hurt? You risk losing more if you don’t open yourself up. Don’t be afraid to go all out. When you find the right person, it will be worth it.

Be fearless in love.

Go live a Truly Wealthy life!

-Alex